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Why we Spend like we are Billionaires, The Diderot Effect

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Denis Diderot, discoverer of the Diderot Effect
Denis Diderot as depicted by Louis-Michel van Loo in 1767. In this painting Diderot is wearing a robe similar to the one that prompted his famous essay on the Diderot Effect.

The Diderot Effect: Why We Want Things We Don’t Need — And What to Do About It

The famous French philosopher Denis Diderot lived nearly his entire life in poverty, but that all changed in 1765.

Diderot was 52 years old and his daughter was about to be married, but he could not afford to provide a dowry. Despite his lack of wealth, Diderot’s name was well-known because he was the co-founder and writer of Encyclopédie, one of the most comprehensive encyclopedias of the time.

When Catherine the Great, the Empress of Russia, heard of Diderot’s financial troubles she offered to buy his library from him for £1000 GBP, which is approximately $50,000 USD in 2015 dollars. Suddenly, Diderot had money to spare. 

Shortly after this lucky sale, Diderot acquired a new scarlet robe. That’s when everything went wrong. 

The Diderot Effect

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Diderot’s scarlet robe was beautiful. So beautiful, in fact, that he immediately noticed how out of place it seemed when surrounded by the rest of his common possessions. In his words, there was “no more coordination, no more unity, no more beauty” between his robe and the rest of his items. The philosopher soon felt the urge to buy some new things to match the beauty of his robe. 

He replaced his old rug with a new one from Damascus. He decorated his home with beautiful sculptures and a better kitchen table. He bought a new mirror to place above the mantle and his “straw chair was relegated to the antechamber by a leather chair.”

These reactive purchases have become known as the Diderot Effect.

The Diderot Effect states that obtaining a new possession often creates a spiral of consumption which leads you to acquire more new things. As a result, we end up buying things that our previous selves never needed to feel happy or fulfilled.

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Why We Want Things We Don’t Need

Like many others, I have fallen victim to the Diderot Effect. I recently bought a new car and I ended up purchasing all sorts of additional things to go inside it. I bought a tire pressure gauge, a car charger for my cell phone, an extra umbrella, a first aid kit, a pocket knife, a flashlight, emergency blankets, and even a seatbelt cutting tool.

Allow me to point out that I owned my previous car for nearly 10 years and at no point did I feel that any of the previously mentioned items were worth purchasing. And yet, after getting my shiny new car, I found myself falling into the same consumption spiral as Diderot. 

You can spot similar behaviors in many other areas of life:

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  • You buy a new dress and now you have to get shoes and earrings to match.
  • You buy a CrossFit membership and soon you’re paying for foam rollers, knee sleeves, wrist wraps, and paleo meal plans.
  • You buy your kid an American Girl doll and find yourself purchasing more accessories than you ever knew existed for dolls.
  • You buy a new couch and suddenly you’re questioning the layout of your entire living room. Those chairs? That coffee table? That rug? They all gotta go.

Life has a natural tendency to become filled with more. We are rarely looking to downgrade, to simplify, to eliminate, to reduce. Our natural inclination is always to accumulate, to add, to upgrade, and to build upon.

In the words of sociology professor Juliet Schor, “the pressure to upgrade our stock of stuff is relentlessly unidirectional, always ascending.” 

Mastering the Diderot Effect

The Diderot Effect tells us that your life is only going to have more things fighting to get in it, so you need to to understand how to curate, eliminate, and focus on the things that matter.

1. Reduce exposure. Nearly every habit is initiated by a trigger or cue. One of the quickest ways to reduce the power of the Diderot Effect is to avoid the habit triggers that cause it in the first place. Unsubscribe from commercial emails. Call the magazines that send you catalogs and opt out of their mailings. Meet friends at the park rather than the mall. Block your favorite shopping websites using tools like Freedom.

2. Buy items that fit your current system. You don’t have to start from scratch each time you buy something new. When you purchase new clothes, look for items that work well with your current wardrobe. When you upgrade to new electronics, get things that play nicely with your current pieces so you can avoid buying new chargers, adapters, or cables.

3. Set self-imposed limits. Live a carefully constrained life by creating limitations for you to operate within. Juliet Schor provides a great example with this quote…

“Imagine the following. A community group in your town organizes parents to sign a pledge agreeing to spend no more than $50 on athletic shoes for their children. The staff at your child’s day-care center requests a $75 limit on spending for birthday parties. The local school board rallies community support behind a switch to school uniforms. The PTA gets 8o percent of parents to agree to limit their children’s television watching to no more than one hour per day.

Do you wish someone in your community or at your children’s school would take the lead in these or similar efforts? I think millions of American parents do. Television, shoes, clothes, birthday parties, athletic uniforms-these are areas where many parents feel pressured into allowing their children to consume at a level beyond what they think is best, want to spend, or can comfortably afford.”

—Juliet Schor, The Overspent American

4. Buy One, Give One. Each time you make a new purchase, give something away. Get a new TV? Give your old one away rather than moving it to another room. The idea is to prevent your number of items from growing. Always be curating your life to include only the things that bring you joy and happiness.

5. Go one month without buying something new. Don’t allow yourself to buy any new items for one month. Instead of buying a new lawn mower, rent one from a neighbor. Get your new shirt from the thrift store rather than the department store. The more we restrict ourselves, the more resourceful we become.

6. Let go of wanting things. There will never be a level where you will be done wanting things. There is always something to upgrade to. Get a new Honda? You can upgrade to a Mercedes. Get a new Mercedes? You can upgrade to a Bentley. Get a new Bentley? You can upgrade to a Ferrari. Get a new Ferrari? Have you thought about buying a private plane? Realize that wanting is just an option your mind provides, not an order you have to follow.

How to Overcome the Consumption Tendency

Our natural tendency is to consume more, not less. Given this tendency, I believe that taking active steps to reduce the flow of unquestioned consumption makes our lives better.

Personally, my goal is not to reduce life to the fewest amount of things, but to fill it with the optimal amount of things. I hope this article will help you consider how to do the same.

A fascinating article and very well written. I absolutely enjoyed reading this, and I think teens and young adults should pay close attention to what the writer is trying to tell us and maybe save yourself some debt in your near future.

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You just beat cancer, now what do you want to achieve?

Please assist this survivor with her No. 2 on List ot her life goals by clicking on her link to her Go-Fund me page and donate whatever you can. She is $1,000.00 behind and she reaches her goal of opening her own Cleaning Business! She’s refusing to give up and we can all admire that!

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Become a ImmortalMom/Dad:

If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.

– Abigail Van Buren

                I am currently designing and creating my first big project, completely at home in my free time, compiled of a huge library of Video Blogs. These

Videos will eventually all be tailored specifically to each one of my children, addressed to each one. They will be of myself, doing such things as wishing each one a happy birthday all

The way up to my youngest child’s 100th Birthday, tips on defeating middle age crisis, advice on making it through menopause, thoughts that I believe they should know, important info,

And so many more things. The sky is really the limit with this project, it really can be taken and made from the ground up to be totally and completely yours. One day, not today obviously,

Your children will be sulking after a failed marriage, for example, and just because you have passed on doesn’t mean you can’t still be, they’re for your child as a parent, a guidance, and offer

Advice to them as if you would if this were happening to them.

Will this project be Tedious and Boring at some point? Yes. Will your kids appreciate the value of exactly what you are creating for them now? Surely Not! Will you regret doing this at

Some point? No Way Jose! When I lost my father, I was not prepared. No one ever is really. We do the best we can in preparing our children for that eventuality, but I know all parents

Major worry is about their kids when they are no longer around.  We all wish we could truly be here every day forever for our kids, but since that isn’t physically possible, maybe it’s spiritually, mentally,

And Verbally. I can barely remember my Dad’s Voice, the sound of his laugh, his calming deep singing voice, or even the way he told me he loved me, it’s been 9 years since he passed, and it’s gets

More and more fuzzy every day. The one big regret I have in my life is not recording my dad’s voice, getting more videos with him, and more photos. Since I have that regret, I set out trying to think of someway

I could make sure my children could easily push a button and see my smile and hear my laughter with it on a particular bad day, or laugh with me as I remember the past and all our good times, or listen to

Their personal motivation Video I make specifically for each one of my kids based on their unique personality and challenges to help get them through days when I can’t physically do that. I don’t want to

Stop being apart of their lives one day because of mortality if I can help it. I can do birthdays, holidays, and even Happy New Years for each year up to 2090 if I need to.  I can make sure certain videos are only opened in case of etc. I can even say watch this video only when you have officially started Menopause and your feeling depressed because you think you’re getting old. LoL. I really can just be open, creative, and have fun

With this, and know that in the end, this ImmortalityMom is absolutely going to be one of my children’s most precious and priceless gifts.

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Different types of addictive substances and their effects

Types of addictive substances

  1. Stimulants-

(cocaine, crack, amphetamines) give a temporary

illusion of enhanced power and energy. As the initial

elevation of mood fades, depression and other serious

medical problems may emerge, including heart attacks,

seizures, strokes, and violent, erratic, anxious, or paranoid

behavior.

2. Cocaine use during pregnancy may result in miscarriage,

stillbirth, or low birth–weight babies who may be drug-

dependent and may later develop behavioral or learning

difficulties. Long-term amphetamine abuse can result in

psychosis with symptoms that include paranoid delusions

and hallucinations.

HEROIN

Heroin is an opioid drug in the same class as medications like

morphine. It can be injected with a needle or inhaled. Heroin

produces an intense feeling of pleasure when a person first

begins to use it. Occasional use of heroin often progresses to

dependence or addiction. Skipping use of heroin for an

addicted person can lead to significant withdrawal symptoms

such as chills, sweating, runny nose and eyes, abdominal

cramps, muscle pains, insomnia, nausea, and diarrhea.

Heroin use during pregnancy may result in miscarriage,

stillbirth, premature delivery, or drug-dependent babies.

Injecting heroin introduces substances into their

bloodstream, that can result in severe damage to the heart,

lungs, and brain. In addition, needle sharing spreads

diseases—this is the leading cause of all new HIV and

hepatitis cases.

Opiate abuse can bring about significant and long-lasting

chemical changes in the brain.These changes cause a

person to experience intense cravings and negative

emotions when they try to stop. Several medications can be

used to treat heroin addiction including buprenorphine,

methadone and naltrexone.

4. HALLUCINOGENS

Hallucinogens are drugs such as LSD (acid) or designer

drugs (ecstasy) that are taken orally and cause hallucinations

and feelings of euphoria. Dangers from LSD include stressful

flashbacks—re-experiencing the hallucinations despite not

having taken the drug again, sometimes even years later.

Excessive use of ecstasy, combined with strenuous physical

activity, can lead to death from dehydration or an

exceptionally high fever.

Addiction is a serious illness and can ruin health, finances,

relationships, and careers.The abuse of drugs and alcohol

is a leading cause of preventable illnesses and premature

death in our society.The importance of substance abuse

treatment cannot be overstated, and fortunately many

effective treatments are available.

Consequences of Use

5. ALCOHOL

Most adults are familiar with alcohol and its effects.

Alcohol is a legal drug that can produce pleasant effects

with lower amounts, but that can produce dangerous

effects with higher amounts. People often drink alcohol

during social occasions. Unfortunately, the reckless

behavior that often results from excessive drinking is a

leading cause of serious injury and accidental death.

Alcoholism is an illness in which a person loses the

ability to control their drinking, and it is often associated

with the development of problems in work, relationships,

and health. It is an illness that tends to run in families and

is often associated with depression. Alcoholism can have

devastating effects on health, including serious liver

damage, greater risk of heart disease, impotence, infertility,

and premature aging. Alcohol is the most common cause

of preventable birth defects, including fetal alcohol

syndrome.

An alcoholic who needs to drink daily should stop their

use of alcohol under the supervision of a physician, and

may need medication during their withdrawal.There are

medications that can help reduce the compelling desire to

drink alcohol.Treatment is more successful early in the

development of alcoholism than when the illness has been

allowed to progress for years.

6. MARIJUANA

Marijuana is the most widespread and frequently used

illicit drug and is associated with short-term memory loss,

accelerated heartbeat, increased blood pressure, difficulty

with concentrating and processing information, lapses in

judgment, and problems with perception and motor skills.

Years of marijuana use can lead to a loss of ambition

and an inability to carry out long-term plans or to function

effectively.

7. INHALANTS

Inhalants are breathable chemicals like glue, paint thinner,

lighter fluid.They are commonly abused by teenagers

because they are easy to obtain and because they

produce mind-altering effects when sniffed or “huffed.”

These chemicals reach the bloodstream very quickly and

can be deadly. High concentrations of inhalant fumes can

cause heart failure or suffocation and long-term abuse can

cause permanent damage to the nervous system.

8. SEDATIVES

Sedatives are highly effective medications prescribed by

physicians to relieve anxiety and to promote sleep.

Harmful effects can occur when taken in excess or without

a physician’s supervision. Combining sedatives with

alcohol or other drugs greatly increases the likelihood of

death by overdose. Women who abuse sedatives during

pregnancy may deliver babies with birth defects who also

may be physically dependent on drugs.

9. NICOTINE

Nicotine in tobacco products has addictive properties

similar in severity to those of heroin. Quitting is difficult

because of the unpleasantness of withdrawal, which

involves feelings of irritability, frustration, anger, anxiety,

insomnia, and depression. Continued smoking may lead to

far more dire circumstances, including lung cancer, heart

attacks, emphysema, high blood pressure, and ulcers.

Treatment

The first step on the road to recovery is recognition of the

problem, but often this process is complicated by a lack of

understanding about substance abuse and addiction or

denial. In these cases, the intervention of concerned

friends and family often prompts treatment.

Addiction is a chronic illness like heart disease, high

cholesterol or high blood pressure. People with these

chronic diseases are prone to relapse. Because substance

abuse affects many aspects of a person’s life, multiple

forms of treatment are often required. For most, a

combination of medication and individual or group therapy

is most effective. Medications are used to control drug

cravings and relieve severe symptoms of withdrawal.

Therapy can help addicted individuals understand their addiction.

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